Entries by Joseph Backholm

Why the Church Must Care About Marriage

In about 60 days, Washington State will vote on the definition of marriage.

This decision will be a definitive moment in the history of our state, and possibly in our nation.

Washington could become the first jurisdiction in the history of human civilization that went to the ballot and voted for same-sex “marriage”. The eyes of the world will be on us.  Those hoping to redefine marriage believe victory in Washington will break that dam that will ultimately take it to the rest of the nation and eventually the world.

Marriage is a Social Justice Issue

Marriage is generally thought of as a social or moral issue.  In fact, many conservatives avoid issues like marriage to focus on economic issues.  Strong families, they argue, will follow strong economies.

For the leftist, they avoid issues like marriage in favor of social justice issues.  From their perspective, we shouldn’t try to force one particular value system on people because legislating morality is inappropriate. They feel time is better spent focusing on how we can practically help those in need.

Opposite-Sex Sisters

Those of us who don’t support redefining marriage think gender matters.  We think the absence or presence of a man and woman is a relevant difference between relationships and we think our language should reflect that reality.  We think it matters, most significantly, in the lives of children who do best when both their mother and father are present and involved in their lives.  Therefore, having a unique term for a unique relationship seems appropriate.

Legislating Morality is Bad?

As you have conversations about the definition of marriage, you may have an exchange that looks something like this.

You: I think the definition of marriage should be a man a woman because the purpose of marriage is not just to make adults feel good. It is good for kids to have both their mother and father present in their lives and the current definition of marriage recognizes that it is important while still allowing people the freedom to make other arrangements if that is their choice.

The Myth of Marriage Equality

Proponents of same-sex “marriage” talk constantly about “marriage equality”.  It is an attempt to hitch their wagon to the real civil rights movement and also puts people who disagree in a position of being against equality.

What they want you to believe is that allowing people of the same gender to get married is “marriage equality”. They use the terms “same-sex marriage” and “marriage equality” synonymously and say things like, “we think any two people who love each other should be able to be married.”  We’ll call this The Beatles standard for marriage…”all you need is love”.